First of all, we have to start by understanding who a side chick is. A side chick is known as the other woman(mistress) who is romantically involved with a man that is in a committed relationship.
While “side chicked”
is when a woman have been made mistresses without her consent and have
no idea that’s the role she play in the relationship.
In our world today, being a side chick is no longer a big deal *rolling eyes*, as it is very common. Some ladies voluntarily agree to be a side chick while some unknowing to them are innocently "side-chicked".
Some ladies don't mind being the side chick maybe because sex with the guy is great, maybe because he's a good money spender, maybe he knows how to take care of a woman, some have the fear of a being in an actual relationship so they'd just stay side, while some don't value themselves as more than a side chick and other reasons best known to them.
ROLES OF A SIDE CHICK
As a side chick these are the way you should behave and the roles you should play in the relationship :
*You have to go with the flow the guy brings and you have to be cool. Things are usually done his way. If you want to go to, let's say Cookie Jar and he says no we'd go to Hans and Rènè. Do not argue, just follow him. He probably knows someone at Cookie Jar who is aware that he's married or in a serious relationship.
*Don't ask too much questions and don't bring up "that topic" or we need to "talk". You must not push it. That topic like "Baby, when will you take me to your house na?", "Honey, when are we meeting your parents?". NO, NO, NO, don't ask especially when you're aware you're a side-chick or you now be like " Boo, I'm wondering who you look like, your dad or your mum. If I see them I would know, I have a feeling you look like your dad". Please don't do that, you should know your boundary and that you're never meeting the family.
*Don't think of spending special holidays, birthdays, valentine and all with the Bobo. Don't even bring up the subject. Fine, he can take you on vacation but don't be saying "where are we spending valentine?" "where would we go for your birthday?". No Girl, as a side chick those days are too special to be spent with you.
*Let him always be the one that keeps in touch and call when he's chanced. Don't go and be calling and calling him when he's making love to his wife or when he's trying to be all lovey-dovey with his wife.
*Sex must be good. As a side chick, he's fxcking you and exploring with you. You'd give it to him up, down, middle, side. You know?, give him different styles and you should be giving it to him hot! If not, what's the point of the relationship? Google and watch different styles so when you guys meet, you'd just be throwing all sort from left to right. You get?
*You must know how to make things interesting. You must not be boring because if you are he'd just throw you one side. You know you're already a side so, he'd just dump your ass after two or three meetings with you.
*You should always give the Bobo space. Not everytime, "Boo, I want to see you", "Baby, come and take me out na", "Bae, will you come and sleep over today, I have some special something for you o". All these kind of things must have limitations.
*You must keep your good looking game 10/10. Like, you must not even take the risk of forming team natural for him, he doesn't need it. You should always look good when he's with you. If he likes you wearing only pant and bra, all well and good. Wear it when he's around.
ADVANTAGES OF A SIDE CHICK :
* He spends money.
* He explores sexually with you, which makes you learn more about sex.
* He makes sure you don't lack. It depends though. You might be lacking small small because he's to 30% yours.
* He takes you to exotic places for vacation(only the rich "Bobos" do that o).
* You have your freedom, you can be side to plenty other "Bobos".
* He can be caring to some extent.
* You will enjoy the luxury life he gives you(The ones that are not stingy).
DISADVANTAGES OF A SIDE CHICK :
* You are not the number ONE!
* He probably has other side chicks, so you might not be the only one. The quarter of himself that he has decided to give to you is what you'd be sharing with the other women. So, you have to be managing.
* The relationship is not long term most times. It's can't last for a long time cause at some point he'd be tired or maybe he'd give his life to Christ and he wants to be whole again. So, bye-bye to you.
* He doesn't want you to have another Bobo as he would be jealous. It has to be him and him alone. If you have another, he must not know about him.
* You can't meet his family cause you're not the main, you might even be dating his father as sugar daddy and you won't even know.
* You probably won't even know where he lives *eyes rolling * all you might know is that he's staying at VGC.
* You can't always have him when you need him, sometimes when you need him the most and he can't be there, he's probably with his wife.
* He makes love to his wife and he fxcks you. It's you he wants to do the gbam-gbam-gbam type of sex with and tear down all your ding-dong-din, you know? but with his wife he's gentle and soft.
* He can't show you off to the world. He's not proud to tell everyone around him that I love this girl as you are a hidden secret. Sometimes, not love sha maybe he can't just start telling people, "I like the way myself and that girl have sex".
* You can't have an actual real relationship because ahead there's not light that it would grow into something bigger and better.
* He respects his wife or the main thrice more than he respects you. He might not even respect you sef.
SIGNS THAT YOU'VE BEEN SIDE CHICKED (for those that are not aware of their status).
*You see him mostly on weekdays. Most weekends he's with wife or the main.
* He always wants to meet at your place or a hotel. He doesn't be like "Baby please come over and cook that extremely nice Efo riro for me". You both eat the Efo at your place all the time.
* You've actually never met his family before except his friends that are like him and when you're meeting those ones, you'd probably meet their side chicks too, who you might be thinking she's the main. Then you'd now be feeling like a wifey (iyawo ore mi).
* He doesn't spend the night with you. He has a set time he leaves your place. "Baby I have to go now so I can prepare for work" "I have a meeting by 5am, let me go and get ready".
* He tells you his sister stays with him and his mum comes around a lot. So, he likes to stay coded and he doesn't want you to come to his house yet.
* His sister that is staying with him calls him every time and they look nothing alike. Ever wonder why she's so light skinned and he's dudu yemi?
* He doesn't exactly tag what you guys have as a relationship. He's like "baby girl, let's see how it goes".
* He goes missing in the association(MIA) on significant days especially on valentine day. Then be like "Boo I'm sorry. Mumsy was sick, I took my sister to the hospital. She's fine now though, so let me make it up to you". That would now be on the 16th". You spend your own valentine as valentine week and not valentine day.
* He doesn't let you see his phone. The security to that phone is so tight. Like it's even wearing bullet proof when you shoot.
* He doesn't talk future goals or about future kids. All that type of talk sha.
So, are you a side chick or do you think you've been "side chicked" by your Bobo?
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- Omotomiwa
