The Liebster Award

Holla Beautiful People,

I was nominated for the Liebster Award by BELINDA of  DIARY OF A FASHION ENTHUSIAST .

The Liebster award was created to recognize and/or discover new bloggers, welcoming them to the blogosphere.

The bloggers nominated are expected to do the following :

1.Thank the blogger who nominated you

2. Display the Liebster Badge on your site

3. Answer the questions you were sent

4. Choose (5 to 11) blogs to nominate

5. Send 10 questions for your nominees to answer.

Thank you so much Belinda. It means a lot to me that you recognized me  and I really appreciate it.

My answers to the questions asked;

1. What do you like most about blogging?

I love the fact that as a blogger you can explore and share different knowledge to the people.

2. What do you dislike most about blogging?

 I think Belinda has said it all.

3. If you could do anything you wanted, make money from it and be happy at the same time, what would it be?

That definitely has to be talking.

4. Handbags or Shoes?

Shoes :) 

5. Coffee or Tea?

Tea 

 

6. If you had 24 hours to live and you could spend it with only one person (apart from family), who would that be?

umm. still thinking................

 

7. What's your favorite color?

I have three favorite colors actually and they are : blue, black and burgundy 

 

8. Favorite book?

Who Moved My Cheese? Spenser Johnson

9. One random fact about you?

Umm the fact that I'm a foodie?

10. If you could sum up your life philosophy with a song, what song would it be?

Two songs actually. Hakuna Matata and We are the One

   
I'M NOMINATING THE BLOGGERS I FEEL DO GOOD AT BLOGGING. THEY ARE;

Uju of Ethniques
Bella of I Am Brownie
Desola of Dee Mako
NSG of Naija Single Girl
Oyindamola of The Retro Liaison
Deborah of The Black Rose

My questions are as follows :
1. What inspired you to start blogging?
2. When did you start blogging?
3. What defines you?
4. What part of the world would you love to visit someday?
5. What inspires you to be a better person/
6. Where do you see yourself in the next five years?
7. What's your favorite hangout spot?
8. What do you dislike about blogging?
9. On the scale of 1-10 how much do you love food?
10. What do you love most about yourself? 


THANKS FOR READING.
 

REVIEW : CREAM SLICES CAKES AND DESSERTS

YUMMY!

Hey guys another review. Looking for an amazing gelato in Surulere Lagos?. Well, you do not need to go far... Cream Slices is here for you. Cream Slices Cakes And Deserts is located at109 Ogunlana Drive Surulere. Well, they make really nice ice-creams and my favorite is "Rocky Road" (just  in case you want to win my heart). I like this place a lot cause its pocket friendly and the gelatos are AMAZING. Sadly, I do not think their pastries are amazing as much as the gelatos but they are good. All the same, its a great place and they have a lot to offer at very reasonable prices . So, you can check them out yourself. Trust me, you would love the place.

LAGOS STORY : ONE CHANCE.

This Lagos story is about my sisters. So on this unfortunate Monday, my sisters went to work. They work on the Island, Victoria island and Ikoyi respectively. So, they go to work together. That monday they left by 5:30am  (most people who leave the mainland for island to work will understand). Sha, they left and by 7 I saw them coming back home. It was funny cause you needed to see the way they looked. I was laughing and asked them had be sacked because they looked like people who lost their jobs, their faces looked like they've been crying, they looked hopeless sha. With anger they told me to stop laughing that they entered "ONE CHANCE" bus on their way to work and they were robbed off everything they had including the money they had in their bank accounts. They said they were only four real passengers in the bus, including the two of them and the remaining seven people were the thieves.
According to them, they said the driver was going and the got to one place where there was traffic so, the driver said they should pass another route that a tanker broke down. They said they were even happy that the driver's "head" was "there" and they were going to get to work early that day. They got to one quite area then suddenly, the six guys in the bus (excluding the driver who was also a thief) brought out guns, knife and injections with liquid substance inside. They collected their phones, money, wrist watches. They were three girls and one guy, they took the guy's phones and laptop.

Then, they asked for the pins of their atm cards(of course they had to give the right pins considering the kind of weapons the robbers had with them). One of the robbers alighted with their atm cards and pin, he withdrew every single dime in each account. At that point the drive was doing a merry-go-round with them inside the bus. They called the guy who went to withdraw the money to confirm if the pins were corrected and that one confirmed. So, they went to drop them at onilegogoro around shitta. They boarded the cms bus from shitta too sha. Oh did I mention, one tried to touch my sister's boobs? She resisted and then he gave her hot slap! She came home with the marks on her face (lol). I felt bad for them though and they cried their eyes out. I almost cried with them but I didn't.

Thankfully they didn't do any other harmful things to them and they dropped them somewhere close where they could easily beg for two hundred naira to enter keke back home. In this Lagos, one must shine eyes. But, I keep wondering what kind of thieves they were. Did you know they stole their eye piece too? Hmm na wa o, this Lagos ehn!


Thank you for reading and please do share your Lagos stories. I love you :).

Is she too pretty to have a Bae?

I do not know if it's just me but based on "my own" observation, most pretty ladies are "bae-less" and the conclusion on this is that most guys find it difficult to be in a serious relationship with them as they want to believe they won't be the only boyfriends they have.


I have a friend who laments all the time that ugly girls get the handsome good looking guys (not like we can create our own humans and not dis-respecting God, but you get what I mean, shey?) so this friend of mine is always like "Tomiwa, see me no boyfriend", (then she mentions someone's name) and be like "she how she would be disposing boys anyhow", according to her this person isn't pretty(lol). She would now start asking, "please what is sending all the guys away na?".


Now when I say pretty, it doesn't just end at miss fine face, hot body. Like I mean girls who are smart(book smart and street smart), good looking and decent. So, it actually really baffles me and I keep asking myself "why do guys RUN from the pretty ladies?".
Someone once suggested that maybe the pretty girls are badly behaved(well not all, as I know a couple of well behaved ones). I also asked a male friend of mine, according to him, some guys are intimidated by pretty girls and some don't want these girls to use their heads and play ball( I don't even know what that means). He also said pretty girls are expensive(like we're they supposed to be cheap before?). He went further by saying, pretty girls are bad girls (like you get the bad he's trying to talk about, abi?).

To be honest I don't think guys should think that way( I don't know if it's all the guys that have that mentality but when he was talking, he made it seem like he was representing). Pretty girls are good girls too.

So, ask a pretty girl out today, she might just be the one.  :)

SIDE CHICK OR SIDE "CHICKED"?

First of all, we have to start by understanding who a side chick is. A side chick is known as the other woman(mistress) who is romantically involved with a man that is in a committed relationship.

While “side chicked”  is when a woman have been made mistresses without her consent and have no idea that’s the role she play in the relationship. 

In our world today, being a side chick is no longer a big deal *rolling eyes*, as it is very common. Some ladies voluntarily agree to be a side chick while some unknowing to them are innocently "side-chicked".
Some ladies don't mind being the side chick maybe because sex with the guy is great, maybe because he's a good money spender, maybe he knows how to take care of a woman, some have the fear of a being in an actual relationship so they'd just stay side, while some don't value themselves as more than a side chick and other reasons best known to them.

ROLES OF A SIDE CHICK

As a side chick these are the way you should behave and the roles you should play in the relationship :
*You have to go with the flow the guy brings and you have to be cool. Things are usually done his way. If you want to go to, let's say Cookie Jar and he says no we'd go to Hans and Rènè. Do not argue, just follow him. He probably knows someone at Cookie Jar who is aware that he's married or in a serious relationship.

*Don't ask too much questions and don't bring up "that topic" or we need to "talk". You must not push it. That topic like "Baby, when will you take me to your house na?", "Honey, when are we meeting your parents?". NO, NO, NO, don't ask especially when you're aware you're a side-chick or you now be like " Boo, I'm wondering who you look like, your dad or your mum. If I see them I would know, I have a feeling you look like your dad". Please don't do that, you should know your boundary and that you're never meeting the family.

*Don't think of spending special holidays, birthdays, valentine and all with the Bobo. Don't even bring up the subject. Fine, he can take you on vacation but don't be saying "where are we spending valentine?" "where would we go for your birthday?". No Girl, as a side chick those days are too special to be spent with you.

*Let him always be the one that keeps in touch and call when he's chanced. Don't go and be calling and calling him when he's making love to his wife or when he's trying to be all lovey-dovey with his wife.

*Sex must be good. As a side chick, he's fxcking you and exploring with you. You'd give it to him up, down, middle, side. You know?, give him different styles and you should be giving it to him hot! If not, what's the point of the relationship? Google and watch different styles so when you guys meet, you'd just be throwing all sort from left to right. You get?

*You must know how to make things interesting. You must not be boring because if you are he'd just throw you one side. You know you're already a side so, he'd just dump your ass after two or three meetings with you.

*You should always give the Bobo space. Not everytime, "Boo, I want to see you", "Baby, come and take me out na", "Bae, will you come and sleep over today, I have some special something for you o". All these kind of things must have limitations.

*You must keep your good looking game 10/10. Like, you must not even take the risk of forming team natural for him, he doesn't need it. You should always look good when he's with you. If he likes you wearing only pant and bra, all well and good. Wear it when he's around.

 ADVANTAGES OF A SIDE CHICK :

* He spends money.

* He explores sexually with you, which makes you learn more about sex.

* He makes sure you don't lack. It depends though. You might be lacking small small because he's to 30% yours.

* He takes you to exotic places for vacation(only the rich "Bobos" do that o).

* You have your freedom, you can be side to plenty other "Bobos".

* He can be caring to some extent.

* You will enjoy the luxury life he gives you(The ones that are not stingy).

 DISADVANTAGES OF A SIDE CHICK :

* You are not the number ONE!

* He probably has other side chicks, so you might not be the only one. The quarter of himself that he has decided to give to you is what you'd be sharing with the other women. So, you have to be managing.

* The relationship is not long term most times. It's can't last for a long time cause at some point he'd be tired or maybe he'd give his life to Christ and he wants to be whole again. So, bye-bye to you.

* He doesn't want you to have another Bobo as he would be jealous. It has to be him and him alone. If you have another, he must not know about him.

* You can't meet his family cause you're not the main, you might even be dating his father as sugar daddy and you won't even know.

* You probably won't even know where he lives *eyes rolling * all you might know is that he's staying at VGC.

* You can't always have him when you need him, sometimes when you need him the most and he can't be there, he's probably with his wife.

* He makes love to his wife and he fxcks you. It's you he wants to do the gbam-gbam-gbam type of sex with and tear down all your ding-dong-din, you know? but with his wife he's gentle and soft.

* He can't show you off to the world. He's not proud to tell everyone around him that I love this girl as you are a hidden secret. Sometimes, not love sha maybe he can't just start telling people, "I like the way myself and that girl have sex".

* You can't have an actual real relationship because ahead there's not light that it would grow into something bigger and better.

* He respects his wife or the main thrice more than he respects you. He might not even respect you sef.

SIGNS THAT YOU'VE BEEN SIDE CHICKED (for those that are not aware of their status).

*You see him mostly on weekdays. Most weekends he's with wife or the main.

* He always wants to meet at your place or a hotel. He doesn't be like "Baby please come over and cook that extremely nice Efo riro for me". You both eat the Efo at your place all the time.

* You've actually never met his family before except his friends that are like him and when you're meeting those ones, you'd probably meet their side chicks too, who you might be thinking she's the main. Then you'd now be feeling like a wifey (iyawo ore mi).

 * He doesn't spend the night with you. He has a set time he leaves your place. "Baby I have to go now so I can prepare for work" "I have a meeting by 5am, let me go and get ready".

* He tells you his sister stays with him and his mum comes around a lot. So, he likes to stay coded and he doesn't want you to come to his house yet.

* His sister that is staying with him calls him every time and they look nothing alike. Ever wonder why she's so light skinned and he's dudu yemi?

* He doesn't exactly tag what you guys have as a relationship. He's like "baby girl, let's see how it goes".

* He goes missing in the association(MIA) on significant days especially on valentine day. Then be like "Boo I'm sorry. Mumsy was sick, I took my sister to the hospital. She's fine now though, so let me make it up to you". That would now be on the 16th". You spend your own valentine as valentine week and not valentine day.

* He doesn't let you see his phone. The security to that phone is so tight. Like it's even wearing bullet proof when you shoot.

* He doesn't talk future goals or about future kids. All that type of talk sha.

So, are you a side chick or do you think you've been "side chicked" by your Bobo?

PS: I hope you enjoyed reading. Thanks for reading.

PSS: Don't forget to talk about this blog to everybody (I know you guys are doing that already). Please send in your Lagos stories and comment na ;)

I love you guys so much.
                                                                                                                                   - Omotomiwa

Lagos story II : From Mainland to Island.

On this fateful day, I contemplated whether or not to go out to my friend's party. His family were hosting friends and he invited me. The venue was just  twenty minutes drive away from my house, so it wasn't far but I didn't know exactly how to get there. On the way I got confused whether I should pass left or right with the description my mother gave so. Then I saw a car with two male and one female inside drive close to me asking for directions, I told them I didn't know anywhere either, then I mentioned the name of the place I was going, they were like that's where they were heading to and I should enter the car (Ermm, I don't enter cars that I am not familiar with the people/person in it, so I really don't know what happened).

The next thing, they commanded me to give them my bag, I did. They searched it and saw my atm card inside. They drove to an atm machine, I was asked to go and withdraw as much as I could, I withdrew ten thousand naira for them. They slapped me saying was that all I had in my account, that I'm just fine for nothing, so I was broke and all. They said a lot and the slap was HOT!

Oh, I didn't mention they picked me up at Masha, Surulere and after all their "parade" they dropped me at Apongbon(cms) which is on the island. They said if I scream or make any alert that I was going to be in big trouble.

They asked me come down jeje, find my way and they zoomed off. I didn't know if I should scream, shout, cry or anything. The tears started flowing, people began to ask what happened then I narrated the whole story for them. The people around gathered like two thousand naira for me (I never knew Nigerians could actually be so nice). I went back home and I didn't step out of my house for one week.

The slap alone gave me headache for about four days not to even talk of my money. That day I realized on had to be extremely careful. Nine out of ten people I told this story concluded that they used juju (charm) for me. Thankfully, I've gotten over this incident but it still hurts and I can never forget.
Thank you for reading.
                                                                                                                - A

PS: Thanks to Marvy Legend for this amazing graphic photo of Lagos Story.

The day of Doom

Charles was the perfect husband. I met Charles 3 years ago at Radisson Blu, a famous restaurant in Victoria Island, Lagos. That day, I was meant to have dinner with my friends but ended up having it with Charles. I had just gotten back from the UK after studying law to attend the Nigerian law school,  Lagos and basically settle down, meanwhile,  Charles had just returned from the US to work here in Nigeria with Chevron after studying engineering. So back to where we met, I was on the phone outside Radisson Blu asking my friend, Bola for our reservation details and I guess Charles was doing the same too because he was also on the phone and there, we bumped into each other. Ta-da!
It was love at first sight. Charles and I got talking and decided to have dinner together, so we ditched our friends. That night was one of the most memorable nights of my life. We exchanged contacts and Charles called me everyday and fast forward, two months later, we were dating. We were perfect for each other. To me, Charles was flawless. Under two years, we got married. Did I mention I had the most magical proposal ever? It was on the eve of my 25th birthday at my favourite dining spot in town. He made exclusively reserved the whole place for just both of us and also invited my favourite band.

 Charles was the best husband any woman would wish for. People say there's nothing like a perfect man but trust me Charles was the perfect husband, he'd cook me breakfast in bed during the weekends and we tried out our experimental cookings every Saturdays if weren't going out. Bola would always say we deserve the award for couple of the year. Two months later after we tied the knot, I was expecting.  Charles and I were so happy to have an addition to the family. We both loved kids and we couldn't wait to have ours. Charles would rub and kiss my baby bump at night before we went to bed every day. We went to US to have the baby and I had this a terrible tear during delivery. I had to stay away from sexual intercourse for sometime for it to heal. Poor Charles also had to abstain for a while, well we always had fun with foreplays.

Two months later after delivery, I came back Nigeria with my beautiful daughter and I was so excited, I was back home, we had a baby now and my tear was healed up.  Charles and I didn't want the traditional situation whereby our mothers come to live with us to help take care of our kid, we didn't want any interference in our lives. I was even happy with this decision of ours so I could re-invigorate our sexual life.  Everything was normal except that the sex part changed. Charles didn't seem to be enjoying the foreplays, I knew he wanted more. He wanted his wife back, and I was working on that.

My bestie Bola even wondered why I never bothered or thought about Charles cheating and I'd tell her that I knew my husband so well, he could never cheat. He barely even rolled with the opposite sex, he didn't even have much of them as friends maybe just four and I knew them so well. He could never cheat on me with them, I thought,  especially considering the fact that that they are all married except one who is engaged and getting married in three months so she could pass as married.

On this very day, I decided to activate our sexual life. I planned to surprise my husband, so I told him that I'd be at my mums' all day. So I dropped the baby at my mum's place after pumping breast milk that was enough to feed two babies, lol and of course that was too much for my child. I just needed to make sure that she had more than enough because her dad and I might spend the whole day. So this was how the plan was meant to go. I'd go to the market, go home and prepare Charles favorite meal, pounded yam and vegetable soup, go to his office and drag him home, eat, shower and the finally have our time together.

I got home from the market, opened the door with my key and proceeded to go upstairs to have a change of clothes.  And I heard the unimaginable coming from my matrimonial bedroom. Moaning. Charles moans to be precise, a drop of Tear rolled down my left cheek. It finally occurred to me that Charles was doing the most forbidden. Cheating. I got the courage to open the door and to my greatest surprise,  Charles was screwing a man on our matrimonial bed!

It was not just any man, his best friend, who was his best man. They were having so much "fun" and got distracted when I screamed and fainted. My world tumbled. I didn't know what to think anymore. That, I must say was my greatest shock. Looking back, I thought my life would end that day and my mind would never clear what I saw out of my head. I had never fainted in my life but that day I did. I still ask myself, is Charles alright? Did I see wrongly? So, Charles lived a fake life or what?  All these while, he had been having an affair with his so called best friend. Apparently this has been going on even before we Charles and I met. Was I meant to be the cover up for Charles? And I came to a conclusion that my husband is mad! What do I tell my daughter? Her father is bisexual? I call that very day,  The day of doom!



Thank you for reading. I really do love you :*